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In the name of Allah, Most Beneficent, Most Merciful
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2. Use the cutest names for your wife. Rasul Allah -
sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - had nicknames for his wives, ones that they loved.
Call your wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid using names that hurt
their feelings.
3. Don't treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our daily lives
until it 'bugs' us. Similarly, a wife will do well all day - which brings no
attention from the husband - until she does something to 'bug' him. Don't treat
her like this; recognize all the good that she does and focus on that.
4. If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not comment! This is
one of the ways Mohamed Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - used when he
would see something inappropriate from his wives - radi Allahu 'anhunn. It's a
technique that few Muslim men have mastered.
5. Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often. Smiling is
Sadaqah(charity) and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah. Imagine life
with her constantly seeing you smiling. Remember also those Mohamed Ahadith when
Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would kiss his wife before leaving
for Salah, even if he was fasting.
6. Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again! Take for
example a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the home, buy a gift
for you and a dozen other tasks . And sometimes the only acknowledgement she
receives is that there needed to be more salt in the soup. Don't let that be;
thank her!
7. Ask her to write down the last ten things you did for her that made her
happy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize what gives your
wife pleasure. You don't have to play a guessing game, ask her and work on
repeating those times in your life.
8. Don't be little her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may look down
upon the requests of their wives. Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam set
the example for us in an incident when Safiyyah - radi Allahu 'anha - was crying
because, as she said, he had put her on a slow camel. He wiped her tears,
comforted her, and brought her the camel.
9. Be humorous and Play games with your wife. Look at how Rasul Allah - sal
Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would race his wife Aisha - radi Allahu 'anha - in the
desert. When was the last time we did something like that?
10. Always remember the words of Allah's Messenger - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam:
"The best of you are those who treat their families
the best. And I am the best amongst you to my family."
Try to be the best!
In conclusion: Never forget to make Dua to Allah - azza wa jall - to make your
marriage successful. And Allah ta'ala knows best !!